• Powering Through

    We’re approaching the one-year anniversary of the beginning of quarantine. A year! A challenging and emotional march through four seasons. How have we changed and what have we learned? Where do we go from here? Although we may be sensing the light at the end of this dark tunnel we’ve been walking through, there’s not much clarity as to how or even when this unexpected journey will end. This time of the year lends itself to being inside, reflecting, seeing, evaluating where we are and where we want to be. Given all that has happened this last year, many of us feel anxious about the future. We’re hoping for positive change and the promise of something fresh and new to take hold and grow roots. We can’t see it yet so we may get discouraged and begin to believe that winter will never end. I’ve been thinking about inspiration these days. I usually don’t have to go looking for it. It comes in solitude, in nature, in poetry, in the little things, quietly, and often…

  • Endings & New Beginnings

    January 2021 began with a bang and an intensity that rocked us. We had hoped for a deep breath of fresh air and a new beginning. We knew that things were not going to change overnight. They didn’t. Instead, January 6th happened. The images, intensity, and sheer scope of the day’s events jolted me and activated memories, emotions, and past experiences that I thought were behind me. If you too experienced an avalanche of emotions or strong memories, please remember it’s normal. Research has shown that traumatic events can trigger this kind of response. Take good care and be extra patient with yourselves. I was grateful when on January 11th, a small group of women and I got together for our first gathering of 2021. Our focus was on endings and new beginnings. We were together for an hour and a half. We had the opportunity to sit quietly and reflect, journal, share our insights, support one another, and set an intention for the month. It was an intimate and affirming experience, one that has…

  • Imagine – Hope

    Hello everyone, Welcome to the finish line of 2020, a truly unprecedented year. We’re a few hours away from a brand new and much-needed beginning. We ought to give ourselves credit for getting through and being here, ready and able to exhale. Is anything going to change drastically at the dawn of the New Year? Probably not, but change will come…slowly, painstakingly, deliberately, and at times, unexpectedly. ‘Tis the nature of change. Of course! The path to heavendoesn’t lie down in flat miles.It’s in the imaginationwith which you perceivethis world,and the gestureswith which you honor it.Oh, what will I do, what will I say, when thosewhite wingstouch the shore? Mary OliverExcerpt from “The Swan” It is customary to begin a new year by setting intentions and making resolutions. Given the year we’ve had, I feel the need to look back and reflect on the significance and lessons of 2020. In retrospect, even without the pandemic, 2020 was earmarked for chaos. Political upheaval and racial tensions have been building for a while. Our environment has been…

  • The Starting Point

    I’ve been thinking of what to write for a few days now. I find myself growing increasingly silent. Some voices need to be heard and I feel the need to do more listening than speaking. The horror of what happened to George Floyd, the explosion of protests, and the voices of people collectively shouting …. ENOUGH … combined with the pandemic, political landscape, and the historical reality of systemic racism, have left me muddling through the days and getting lost in whirling and conflicting thoughts. I am deeply sad and often very angry. I want to help but don’t know how. Being the “fixer” I was born and conditioned to be and watching by the sidelines without being able to see where I can be most effective, is frustrating. So, I research opportunities to contribute and do what I can. I also have moments of shame and guilt. Here I am in my safe little corner of the world while people are getting killed in the streets. This morning, before sitting to meditate, I opened…

  • Full Speed Ahead? Not So Fast.

    I do love the change of seasons. I even enjoy winter; given a warm coat, a bowl of hot soup, time by the fireplace, and not having to drive on icy roads, that is. There’s a reason the Seasons of Change model is the foundation of my coaching practice. Not only is there infinite beauty in each season but they also provide us with the metaphors that can serve as guidance for navigating life’s ups and downs. Two days ago, I found three ants crawling around my kitchen. “Look,” I called out, “spring is coming!” Neal looked at me and said, “As you wish.” Of course he’d say that but I knew that what he really meant was . . . “Wishful thinking!“ The ants – I’m sorry to say – didn’t survive long. This is my kitchen. Spring may be coming but it’s not here yet. These ants were way ahead of their time and their little excursion was doomed at the get-go. Are you feeling antsy these days? Are you getting impatient and…

  • Warning! Unknown Territory Ahead!

    My twin daughters are high school juniors. Our family of four is dancing — or should I say spinning — to the tune of change these days. Not that change is new to us. These girls have been changing our lives since before they took their first breath and I wouldn’t have it any other way. The day I had my first ultrasound the doctor pointed to the screen and said, “Here’s one head and . . . there’s the second. Congratulations! You’re having twins!”  Neal jumped up. He couldn’t contain his excitement. He was over the moon. If he had any cigars on him, he would have passed them around.  I remember getting dressed and excusing myself for a few minutes. I walked into the bathroom – the only place where I could be alone. I stood there for a few minutes, trying to comprehend what had just happened. I kept breathing, trying to untangle the web of emotions I was flooded with. I was feeling ecstatic, terrified, and everything in between. There was…

  • Dare to Dream: Endings and New Beginnings

    There is a stream that cuts across our backyard. Yesterday, it seemed completely frozen. When I looked closer I realized that, right under the ice, there was this faint vein of water moving. There is life at the bottom of this stream. There are frogs, fish, and all kinds of creatures snug in the mud, waiting and preparing for the thaw. Spring is coming and when the temperatures are right and the environment hospitable, they’ll find their way to the surface and they’ll begin yet another cycle. We too are creatures of nature. We live our lives in cycles; endings and new beginnings and everything in between. Every cycle has its own purpose. There are tasks we need to accomplish. The better we are at being present with ourselves, the easier and more purposeful our transitions become. You can try being present with yourself now. Take a couple of deep breaths and let your body relax. As you continue to breathe, gently bring these questions to consciousness. What is changing in your life right now?…

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    Spring Forward

    On Wednesday, March 20 at 7:09 am EST, Spring, the season of rebirth, made her entrance! There’s still snow on the ground but it’s melting fast. The weather report is warning us of yet another snowstorm coming Monday. It works like this, as one season gives way to the next; two steps forward, one step backward… dancing the tango and so we go round the seasons. Saturday morning, I made my usual rounds to the recycling center, post office, and driving the girls to their various activities. It was windy, at times cloudy, then sunny. The sky was a brilliant blue. There were even snowflakes falling, dancing their way down. When I returned home, I took a bag of potting soil and headed to replant my peace lily. It felt like a good day to replant something. It must be spring! I washed a clay pot with hot water and soap and filled it halfway with new soil. I took the peace lily off the old pot. The plant had outgrown the pot it came…

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