I was talking to a young woman yesterday. She is twenty-four years old, very bright, beautiful, and a genuine mover and shaker. She had just changed jobs and we were talking about her process. I shared my experience of climbing the corporate ladder only to find out – as I was turning forty – that I wasn’t willing to keep paying the price for corporate success. Living a life of inner conflict wasn’t for me.
She listened to me and then began telling me how she and most of her friends are already concerned about living a life that’s infused with purpose. They want to know who they are, what their role is, how they can best contribute, and they are not willing to play the game their parents played for the longest time.
I got the feeling that these young people are not afraid to say no to the old belief systems and they don’t hesitate to challenge the status quo and introduce change.
I’m not sure but I can safely guess that most people don’t take the time to think what it is they want in life. Life somehow happens. Not that life wouldn’t happen anyway. Life has a way of happening despite of what we think we want. Most of the time we get what we need. If we’re lucky and we’ve done our work, our wants and needs are aligned.
For me, a healthy life is a life free of inner conflict. When we live our lives on automatic, never bothering to check in with our hearts or our spirit, and make sure that we are in the right place, at the right time, with the right people, then misalignment and inner conflict are unavoidable.
If, for example, you are in a relationship that doesn’t support you and you keep going, for whatever the reason, your heart eventually will rebel. Your mind will be giving you all the reasons why you should stay in the relationship but your heart will keep needling you, whispering why you should go. You may choose to ignore your heart and obey your fears and insecurities. Eventually your body will pay the price for this conflict. Some kind of physical discomfort will appear.
Or, you may be in a work situation that goes against who you are. Every day you go to work and something inside just doesn’t feel right. Somewhere deep down you feel that you’re selling out. You want what this job offers – money, power, social status etc.- but you are paying the price to get all that. You may be paying the price of ignoring your dreams, missing out on time with your family, not having time for yourself. How long before your health is affected?
When is the right time to make a change? Is waiting for some time in the far future to live a healthy life a wise choice?
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