As a life coach and retreat leader, Yota works with women seeking clarity, inspiration, and purpose in the midst of life changes. Her approach is intuitive and deeply influenced by her cultural roots, work and life experience, and her long-term practice of mindfulness meditation.


  • Danielle Venturini

    I was in PA this weekend visiting my best friend from college who I haven’t seen in almost 4 years. It was a different visit this time, because I was different. She was also different. My friend was always about appearances. Everything had to be in order, and clean. She now has 3 children and 5 animals in her once spotless house. It was utter chaos in her house, and she couldn’t look more happy. Her idea of success had drastically changed. She let go of the idea her parents had for her, and ran with what made her happy. I admired that about her, and was happy for her. I know that couldn’t have been easy.

    Also, I’ve made contact with an old friend from high school. He knows about my divorce, and what I went through. Instead of playing the victim card, I showed him who I was. I did not want to change who I was because of what happened to me. He noticed my maturity, and has been very respectful. There are things that show me that we may be on different pages, or that we have different expectations. Instead of getting angry, or shutting down. I addressed them. In a way that was not attacking, but sharing my feelings on how something made me feel. I said to myself that I needed to speak up on this, and if this person can not be understanding of my feelings, then this person is not for me.

    I put up with a lot of “bending” over the years. I can’t bring myself to compromise any of my needs anymore. I think I developed this new confidence, and maturity. Also, humbleness. If this person is not for me, that’s okay. I’m very surprised how mature I was about this, and how vocal I was about my feelings. I normally let things bottle up, and explode. He responded to my feelings, and validated them. This is how it should be. Even if this person is not for me. These are how conversations must go going forward. With anyone that comes into my life.

    • Yota Schneider

      Hi Danielle,

      Isn’t it amazing that you were given the opportunity to test drive your resolve and the new way of showing up in the world? This will continue to happen so you can become more and more clear as to what fits and what doesn’t into your emerging vision of your new beginning.

      Bravo for refusing to “bend.” Been there done that! Your values and needs are what you’re building your new life on. Compromising them for approval will never work.

      I hope you continue to engage through the lens of evaluating what attracts and what repels you. This kind of awareness will be of great value to you as you move forward.

      Big hugs and congratulations.

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