The Art of Self-Compassion

A Personal Retreat

As we learn to have compassion for ourselves, the circle of compassion –
what and whom we can work with, and how – expands.

– Pema Chodron from Comfortable with Uncertainty

True or False?

It is never the right time to do your thing. The needs of the many almost always outweigh yours. Whether by circumstance, choice, or both,
you are the one who people depend on to get things done and done right.

Lately, you have been feeling increasingly resentful and disappointed. Every little thing seems to bother you, and your patience is falling short. As you lay in bed at night, you look back at your day and wonder,
“Why did I have to snap at the kids? They were being kids.”

Life is hectic. Our times are fraught with uncertainty and stress.

Your parents are aging, and they need more attention and care. The kids are going through one transition or another, and you are doing your best to support them. You are working long hours in a job that has lost its luster. If only you had the time and energy to rethink your direction.

Other people appear to have their act together. They have figured out what they want, and they are doing a fine job going for it. At times, you feel a tinge of envy.

The stress is taking its toll. You are tired and have trouble breathing sometimes. There is a yoga class you want to take, but something always gets in the way. You do not remember the last time you read a good book.

There are nights you have difficulty falling asleep. You wake up in the morning feeling as tired as you were when you went to bed. You may feel distracted, uninspired, and exhausted.

To make things worse, the last two years have been dominated by the pandemic. Our collective anxiety is going through the roof.

If you are burnt out and overwhelmed, you will not be effective. You can continue with business as usual, or begin to introduce changes and figure out how to best take care of yourself. The key is to begin where you are. Small changes can have a positive impact on your health and well-being.

“Where you are understood, you are at home.”

– John O’Donohue

Where does understanding begin and who does it begin with? We are the only ones who can articulate what is going on in our hearts and our heads.

What do we do with this knowledge? Do we approach ourselves with kindness and tolerance or jump to denial, rejection, and consternation?

Life is hard enough without self-imposed suffering. What if we held ourselves the way we would hold a friend, gently and with good intentions? What if we listened deeply and withheld judgment? Self-compassion helps us walk through our days with patience and care.

Every morning we open our eyes to meet the new day. What will today be like? What awaits? How do we want to show up? Can we meet ourselves in friendship, with a hopeful attitude, and walk gently through the day welcoming it all with an open heart and curiosity?

What would our experience of life be if we adopted this outlook of self-compassion?

During a five-week period, you will practice befriending yourself. You will ask the questions your best friend would ask you and explore how you may be neglecting your deepest needs.

We will practice stillness together and alone and listen for the answers … with kindness, patience, and an open heart.

I invite you to join me for the

The Art of Self-Compassion

How does it work?

  • The purpose of this retreat is to help you gain a deeper understanding of your needs and wants and explore the strategies that work for you.
  • It is an interactive retreat where you get the opportunity to share your challenges, perspectives, and insights, and receive personalized attention and coaching.
  • We will meet via Zoom once a week for five weeks.
  • During our sessions, we will explore self-compassion, practice guided meditation, journal, and engage in conversation.
  • In between sessions, you will have access to The Art of Self-Compassion online forum, where you can engage with the material further.
  • You are also invited to participate in my Monday morning meditation circle on Mondays and Thursdays at 9:00 AM EST, via Zoom.

During the five-week period, we will:

  • Discuss how ignoring your needs can impact the quality of your life and relationships.
  • Assess your personal beliefs, challenges, and habits and identify common setbacks and self-defeating behaviors.
  • Examine the Body-Mind-Spirit connection and how the practice of Mindfulness can become a game-changer in your efforts to make meaningful and lasting changes.
  • Define your vision for health and wellness and create a plan for making mindful life choices and living in balance.

Tuition: $185

Payment is accepted via PayPal or Venmo (@Yota-Schneider).

You can register by using the form below.

Upon registration, I will contact you to schedule our weekly Zoom meetings and discuss the details.

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.

– Jack Kornfield