“It’s peaceful,” my fifteen-year-old daughter said, “Almost, too peaceful!” she added. We had just come from a four-mile walk on the beach. We were sitting on the porch facing the Atlantic. I was reflecting on our walk, feeling grateful for the expansion of the beach and sky in front of us.

As I listened to her I was reminded . . . she’s at the stage of her life where the more the better. I have entered the period in my life where less is more and peace and simplicity are what I crave the most.

Two women, two generations, two different takes on life. I wondered whether she’s bored with my ways. I’m sure it happens often these days.

Peaceful is golden for me. Peaceful can be boring to her.

I love my daughter. I admire and respect her lively, curious spirit and authentic character. She’s beautiful, loving, fun, and curious.

I want to offer her what I know and tell her to take it easy and feel the richness of every moment. I tell her but I’m not sure she really understands what I mean. She’s at the beginning of her life’s journey and I’m way past the middle point.

It begins to dawn on me that she’ll have to find out for herself. I can’t rob her of the privilege of her experience and I wouldn’t want to.

These days, I’m coming to understand that parenting, loving, co-existing have a lot to do with letting go and letting be.

As a life coach and retreat leader, Yota works with women seeking clarity, inspiration, and purpose in the midst of life changes. Her approach is intuitive and deeply influenced by her cultural roots, work and life experience, and her long-term practice of mindfulness meditation.

Share your thoughts

Scroll Up